Depression got me

onebigfish wrote:

That sounds like a pretty heavy load.  I'm glad you can at least shed some of it when you get home.

Especially when the kiddo pulls a stunt like saying a new word for the first time with just me around to witness and hear it those are always awesome

Eliene- No clue I think I need a full on complete change, job, finances, stress, diet, lifestyle, etc oh and a very long vacation

You definitely do need those changes. When everything stops working as it should then it's definitely time for changes.

I think I am in that boat too. I have been feeling over stressed and mentally fragile for a few months now and it is finally cracking me. I been under too much stress for too long, compounded with childhood traumas, PTSD from 6 years ago and having to carry the load for myself and others and the stress is killing me. I hate work and what I do when I used to love it and hate everything lately.

I definitely need big changes. A vacation followed by a change in finances, lifestyle, where I live, new career ect. Just a whole new life would be great.

Stress can certainly exacerbate depression/anxiety/any other form of mental illness.

I feel for all who suffer..I dont suffer, but I have/had family suffer and its hard

I feel sad hearing your stories. I can relate to them. When you feel you have too much to carry, you are near the boundaries built up for human being to be a whole person. Stress doesn´t support productivity nor happiness.

I pray for you.

I have been feeling a lot better lately. I started sports-programme and been losing some weight. And that has been improving my wellfare.

Addy. Can you have a complete change? And if you can´t, what is the thing you can change? Can you start building something new brick by brick?

I find getting outdoors and getting some sunshine, fresh air, and activity helps me. It's something I need to do quite often.

That doesn't help me, when it gets warmer i start becoming a fancy feast for bugs between that and allergies outdoors is not a pleasant experience generally

As for the things I can change everything seems to be narrowed down to money. Money to take a vacation, money to improve my lifestyle, money to eat healthier (cuz it aint cheap), money to go back to school for training in what i want to do. The only one that is not money dependant is stress, i cant lessen the amt but ive been trying to handle stress better, i have no coping skills, very poor stress management maybe because its always like 6 to 7 things all at once. its never 1 or 2 things

Better stress management could allow you to deal with the other issues more effectively.

Addy wrote:

As for the things I can change everything seems to be narrowed down to money.  Money to take a vacation, money to improve my lifestyle, money to eat healthier (cuz it aint cheap), money to go back to school for training in what i want to do.  The only one that is not money dependant is stress, i cant lessen the amt but ive been trying to handle stress better, i have no coping skills, very poor stress management maybe because its always like 6 to 7 things all at once. its never 1 or 2 things

Yeah. The money-issue is bad. I can relate to that. My being away from work happened from my wifes pocket. I´m glad she carried that burden to help me back on my feet. It helped us to survive and to balance things. But I know that many people don´t have that option. I´m also glad that our society where I live supports people who take therapy and gets counseling.

Is there any way you can take things a little slower and deal with lesser things at the same time?